Tue 16 Aug 2005
One of the bloggers who I read frequently wrote a rather empowered post displaying smug satisfaction at having put herself first and done what she needed/wanted to do this past weekend while her boyfriend sat on the sidelines. Which got me thinking about my own behavior with and without a boyfriend.
I posted the comment on her post:
Prioritizing myself above the significant other…*sigh* still working on that one. Sometimes I think the only reason I’m so happy single is because I’m #1 by default. I don’t know that when a new man enters my life that I won’t be a doormat again. This is sad.
You just have to find someone who’s content enough with himself that he doesn’t need you to make him the priority of your life. I was afraid that after I broke up with my ex that I was going to be a door mat again but it didn’t happen.
I don’t think it’s as much the guy’s demand as stuff I just do naturally.
I guess it’s really a matter of striking the balance in life. We should still have some own space for ourselves, with or without a bf. You are the only one who can decide for your own happiness. Be your own mistress. I know it’s difficult, but it’s not impossible. Just a bit more faith in yourself.
I’ve seen both groups of gals living happily. I’m sure you can do the same too! 🙂
Jade – I am definitely working on it! 🙂