Wed 1 Mar 2006
There’s a first time for everything. I am publicly recanting the post entitled “Guardedly Chipper” because I jumped the gun on the label that something was a lie. As it turned out, there was a logical explanation for what I felt were inconsistencies, and I am going to go with that.
I read your “Guardedly Chipper” post earlier today, and it struck a chord with me, even if it’s no longer relevant. I totally understand the feeling of a plank sitting on a marble, it’s like you just feel like you KNOW something is not right. It just really sucks when your intuition turns out to be right. It’s never fun realizing that someone has been lying to you, no matter how big or small.
Hi, PL. Thanks for the validation. I think intuition works overtime when things aren’t going well, and you’re trying to place a finger on the signs of disease. A new friend of mine has a theory that as long as the plank is on a marble, she’s going to jump ship, and it doesn’t matter whether she ever sees the marble with her own eyes, her sense that the plank isn’t straight is enough proof for her.
I think I know what your friend means, I’ve been scared to the point of wanting to jump ship so many times because I feel that marbles are there. I think that if the what is under the surface is withheld with malicious intent, then jump away. But sometimes I think that there really can be misunderstandings, and if you can’t be willing to face them, then that may say something too. Maybe that person isn’t important enough for you to try to work things through with. I think that sometimes discovering those marbles has something to do with discovering what someone is all about. The truth doesn’t always come easy. But that that isn’t to say that withholding or altering it is okay. You can only deal with it so many times before trust can’t be mended again. There’s that saying that if you lie to me once, shame on you, but lie to me again, and shame on me. But throwing away everything on a single assumption? I think that, in a way, shows an unwillingness to try for something more.
Good points.