Thu 20 Nov 2008
I hadn’t blogged in awhile. I guess I feel like nobody would really miss me, anyway. When I started this hobby, it was because I needed it the way I needed journaling. With my thoughts, anguish, fears, and hopes written down, safely captured in black and white and bits and bytes, I could stop the swirling emotions and wide-eyed fear that I’ll miss something life-threatening or -enlightening simply by forgetting to process it. And then I could sleep again, the record perpetually tangible and accessible for future mulling over. Yes, it sounds insane.
I read an article the other day about how journaling stimulates both the left analytical side of the brain, as well as the right creative side. Just 20 minutes of journaling a day reduces stress and anxiety, helps memory, improves intellectual acuity. Jotting one’s thoughts down is far more beneficial to the mind as a whole than something like crossword puzzles or number games, which only exercise the left side of the brain.
As my need for anxiety- and stress-relief waned and my social life picked up again, the blog posts got farther and fewer in-between. But I kept on blogging as much as I was able, finding a few minutes here and there, because I had created a world of readers and friends that I enjoyed entertaining and communicating with through Cindy’s World. I met people I never would’ve run into in real life, nurtured and tightened friendships that distance and busyness would’ve otherwise tested. I found value in my blogging as my online presence seemed to be even beneficial to some other people.
And then I lost internet access at the place I spend the most time at in front of a computer. Blogging became far more difficult, but I still tried, thinking maybe my words would be sought after, if for nothing other than entertainment purposes.
I’m not sure that’s happening anymore. As much comfort and convenience as I had derived in the past from being able to look up records of what I’d done on a certain day, or do a search on this blog for a specific topic for future reference (such as a restaurant whose name I couldn’t remember but know I’d gone to for a specific occasion that I’d blogged about), I am seriously considering stopping. I’ve long since lost my need for creating these records, and it seems people have lost their need for my writing. I will always, however, value what I’ve written up to this point. Anything I write becomes my child. I am reminded of a phrase a college English literature professor once quoted, although I had been too poor of a student to pay attention to know whose quote it was: Cut these lines, and they bleed.
u know it’s weird i’ve been going thru the same mood. but i’m not sure i’m ready to let go yet. the only reason i’ve been too busy to write lately is bc life has been happening. but the irony is after everything happens and is said, done and finished, that’s when i start reflecting the most. that’s where i’m almost at now.
and wanna know a secret? sometimes when i feel like i can’t turn to anybody, cuz let’s just face it that at times u really can’t, i find my blog again.
maybe ur just having one of those slumps 🙂
NOOOOOOOOOO!
(well, it’s ok for me because we stay in touch. but i feel bad for your other readers).
Although I was NEVER as involved with blogging as you are, I hit that slump and found it hard to come back. I think it’s just the realization that it’s “out there” that hit me and rather than saying what I really want to say, I avoid certain things or watch what I say. I have often thought about making a new blog with total anonymity, so that way I feel more free to say whatever I want.
And as far as you not blogging…
Cindy that’s like a day where the sun doesn’t come up… it’s not… uhm, normal.
Something else is brewing.. I just know it.
I don’t think you could stop blogging if you tried. You’d eventually witness or participate in something interesting and then fall of the wagon and onto your keyboard. Your problem is that your life is too damn good right now, and so none of us can relate you. For that reason I have the world’s smallest violin playing a sympathetic tune just for you. Whether you blog or not, I still check in periodically to scan for pictures, short blogs, or any blog that references me (yes, I’m a bit of an ego maniac). You have quite an accomplishment under your belt by securing a highly coveted slot as one of my bookmarked website. Don’t make me second guess that decision. >:-/
actually, go ahead and stop. and then i can offer to forward our emails to your other readers and charge them a small fee.
…that’s cooooold blooded Diana…
I go to NYC and come home to THIS???? WHAT???? NO WAY!!!! I don’t care if you only post once a week, once a month, or once a year…DON’T STOP!!! I enjoy reading your blog SO much!! You’re at the top of my “favorites” list on my sidebar.
But if you do, I hope Diana accepts Paypal because I’m GONNA buy your emails!!!! lol
I agree with Dwaine completely. Writing has always been something special for you. I process things by talking about them; you process things by writing about them.
Perhaps there’s nothing for you to write about right now because life is so going well? I mean, there’s someone who makes you meals and drives you to work, your cat is cone-free, and you live in a great house. I’d say that’s pretty good.
There’s always lots to write about though; social commentary, dumb signs you see on the street… I check in on your blog ever so often as well. Afterall, sometimes there are interesting pictures and you write about me (see ego maniac comment by Dwaine).
I’m sure many, many people will miss reading your blog.
I KNOW you have stuff to post… after all those text pics you sent yesterday…
Text pics? I didn’t get any!!!
I feel the same about the blogging: sometimes you feel it and sometime you don’t. I also agree about how it does release stress and anxiety and yes, sometimes – you just don’t want to talk to anyone about something. Although, I blog just for me – in that if people read, fine but I like to ‘get it out on paper’…so if I don’t write – only a few people get on me about it, ha
Sometimes though – it is just fine to write, for nothing – even if there is no big dramatic event or issue that takes place… Even if you don’t ‘feel’ it Cindy – you should still take pics and post 🙂 Always fun to see! ha
Meow! Cindy can’t stop blogging!
anny – I reflect throughout my life experiencing, but I think the problem now is that whereas before, I’d just turn to my blog and go at it during a reflection, now I can’t cuz I don’t have internet access as readily anymore, and by the time I have access again, the previous reflections seem too insignificant to write about, or I forget what they were, or there’s something else going on that I’m attending to.
diana – hee hee, we do exchange some emails that are almost epic and worthy of publication. But they’d be too damning for us. haha.
Jordan – That’s part of it, too — some self-censorship goes on that kills some of the potential blog material. And to get a post down and out now is such an obstacle that I’ve been content to just email close friends to let out the steam and get feedback the way I used to thru blog posts. It just seems easier and cleaner that way, instead of leaping over hurdles to post something on here and then getting in trouble for it later when other eyes read it.
Dwaine – You must be thinking about all the conversations and outings we’ve had where there’d be a pause and I’d say, “I’m so gonna blog this.” And then I do. =) But I’ve found that when I’m physically UNABLE to “blog this,” that over time, the compulsion to “blog this” goes away. 🙁 But having secured a highly-coveted spot on your “favorites” bookmarks is a compelling argument to keep making efforts to blog, too.
Flat Coke – Haha, I waited until you were in NY to spring this, cuz I have a little secret hidden camera pointing at you to get your reaction when you read this. =) You’re one of those rare, always-supportive bloggy buddies, and I appreciate all your constant comments so much. I like that you lessened the blogging pressure giving me permission to only blog once a year.
Vicky – Yeah, I suppose I can blog about more mundane things, but I feel guilty when I post something like that. It’s like, now I wasted someone else’s time after they read this and left my site feeling unfulfilled. =P Maybe if I just throw your and Dwaine’s names around more, it’d flatter your egos enough to make my posts rewarding at least for TWO of my readers, no matter what is written.
Jordan – Okay, but how many posts can I write about, “Here’s us at the Lake.” “Here’s walking at the Lake.” “Here’s us hanging out at the lake.” “Here’s us sailing at the Lake.”? I just sent you the Lake and mountain pic cuz I know you love mountain scenery and I was trying to make you want to come visit again. =)
k – I guess at some point, I’ve started writing for others and not necessarily for my own “need”. It looks like you’re giving me permission to post about nothing, tho, so maybe that’s something to think about. You may regret making it sound like you find anything I post “fun”.
Dodo – Awww, did you go and call James again to make him comment for you? James is busy at work. Just post yourself and poke at the keyboard slowly; you’ll get the right keys if you touch them with an extended claw instead of your entire foot pad.
I *am* visiting again… right around July 4th when you have your HUGE party.
So far I know Dwaine and Andrae are coming.
hahahahaha
Let’s see how else I can invite.