Wed 24 Dec 2008
An Upcoming White Christmas
Posted by cindy under Mental States , Recreation at 9:51 am[3] Comments
We weren’t gonna do Christmas this year, mostly cuz we’re just feeling lazy. Christmas seems to be more about the kids anyway, and since Mr. W’s kids aren’t with us and Dodo doesn’t seem to care one way or the other, we decided to skip it. But then there was always the “Well, this IS our first Christmas as a married couple, we ought start SOME tradition” guilt hanging over us.
And then, Mr. W’s parents decided to drive aaaaall the way out from Vegas (where it SNOWED last week! we saw photos!) and then the decision was made to have Christmas at our house. Up went the Christmas lights and lawn decorations and pine mantlepiece and garlands wrapped around the stairway railings.
My mom sorely disappointed me this year. They were invited but she immediately had a ton of excuses why she (meaning her, my dad, and her mother) can’t make it. It was so ungraceful and left me in the awkward position of having to explain to my new in-laws why my parents and grandmother won’t be joining us, while I could not think of any reason that wouldn’t make them look bad. So the in-laws arrived yesterday, did indeed ask about my parents, and I chose the least offensive reason my mother gave me.
In-laws: When’re your parents coming?
Me:
In-laws: They’re not? [Mr. W] told us they were invited.
Me: They were…but they think we live in Egypt.
The in-laws chuckled and nicely left it alone. If it were MY mom in their place, she would’ve said, “We drove all the way from VEGAS and she thinks driving from your home town is too far for one day, even though you guys drive out there EVERY WEEKEND to see them?!” But luckily we only have one of those kind of moms in this marriage. =P
Okay, enough talking crap about my bloodline. We’re gonna have a nice few days together, just me in a house of white people. Including Mr. W’s daughter’s 18th birthday party on Sunday at our house, just her and her closest 7 friends for a winter-themed semi-formal dinner, games, and firepit fun. We’re having it catered by the Newport Rib Company and I know there’ll be good music because she sat with me for a couple of hours last nite picking out 90s R&B, which I grew up with. I’ve always thought it was the best decade of music, but wasn’t sure if I was falling into the ol’ stereotypical, “All this crap you kids listen to these days is just noise! Now music in MY day…”
Don’t get me started on MOTHERS. When we celebrated Christmas last Sunday, mom pulled out a printed email from my EX IN-LAWS with a picture of my EX father in law’s jaw where he just had 15 teeth pulled and dentures replacing them. OMG I felt like crawling in a hole, for Mr. Wonderful’s sake.
So are the in-laws coming in for Christmas the new tradition? :o)
I wonder about people doing stuff like that. Mr. W has friends who’ll ask him about his exes’ current welfare and status right in front of me. When that happens I do always wish I were as invisible as I felt.
Not sure if we’re starting a new tradition — it’s a heck of a drive for them. Mom-in-law just really didn’t want to host Christmas at her house this year (like she did all the previous years), and she’s still tired from hosting Thanksgiving.
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