Sun 19 Feb 2012
I’m totally freaked out.
Allie had a bad night. We went out to a local fish place (Boneheads) for dinner, and she didn’t sleep in the car on the way there, so she basically missed her evening short nap. She did sleep about 20 mins or so in the carrier at the restaurant, after fussing, but that was hardly enough. Since she didn’t get good evening rest, I figured she’d be down solid overnight.
I fed her around 7p, she ate well and actually ate both sides (a feat these few days), and again, I was encouraged, thinking, “She’s well-fed so there’s no reason to get up. Maybe tonight she’ll go back to her normal sleep of 1 awakening overnight or better.” She did fall asleep pretty solidly at 7:40p. But then after that it all unraveled. She was up every 3 hours for food, starting at 11:30p (not since she was a newborn), then 2:40a, then was up at about 3:30a, kicking around, tossing her head left and right, eyes wide open. She’s had 7-8 feedings in 24 hours as opposed to the old 5-6 feedings. I told Mr. W to leave her alone as he started to get up to give her the pacifier, and she did settle down and go back to sleep, but that only lasted until 4:15a or so. At that time, Mr. W wanted me to get sleep, so he went in there and gave her the pacifier. Seeing her settled and sleeping on the monitor, I then fell asleep until almost 7a when I heard a single cry from her. I found out later that since he went in there, she did not sleep for more than 15-20 mins at a time, and he had to keep getting up to put the fallen pacifier back in her mouth, he tried taking her bear “bed” out and putting her on her stomach on the mattress, nothing worked more than that small increment of time. He finally stopped soothing her around 7a knowing that’s when I normally start the day with her with a feeding. Yes, he checked her diaper, and that wasn’t it, either. She just tossed and kicked, wide awake.
Before he went in there around 4a, he suggested that I may be overnapping her in the day, hencing making her less tired at night. I said that day naps and night sleep are independent mechanisms in their heads (something I learned from Dr. Weissbluth’s “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child,” or what I’ve been calling “The Sleep Book” on here). He said that the book was not written by God and I’ve been treating it like gospel, and maybe it doesn’t apply to every child. But Dr. Weissbluth’s a pediatrician specializing in child sleep. 🙁
So now I’m completely lost, like a piece of splinter after a shipwreck tossing about the open sea. Mr. W tried to soothe her into her morning nap and I heard her crying and resisting worst than she’d done in awhile. I went to take a shower, and when I came out, it was quiet. I saw him sleeping on the recliner in her room, holding her, also asleep. I had heard him try to leave her once, before I started my shower, and heard her start crying, then heard him go back in. Now she’s crying again. I know he’s exhausted, frustrated and stressed, and I feel responsible for his exhaustion and stress because they’re caused by my baby, and that, along with my own stress over the baby’s mysterious behavior right now, has me doubly stressed.
Why does this shit always happen on the weekends when I can’t email my pediatrician?!
http://moxie.blogs.com/askmoxie/2006/02/qa_what_are_sle.html
my kid’s sleep pattern shifted everytime I thought I had it under control, and the sooner I said “I got it!” the sooner I got screwed.
Wow, I truly feel for you!!! Our son, our first born was a horrible sleeper and cried often, or as i now say he cried 24/7 but really that’s only how I felt at the time. It’s really hard on everyone when a young baby is sick, but first of all she is not only your baby but Mr. W;s too!!!! He appears to be very helpful and hands on, which is great but you can’t beat yourself up over him being stressed, losing sleep and all of that.
It’s the weekend so I say rightly so his turn, but of course what do i know
I wish I had some easy fix for you, this is really wearing on you and that makes things even harder to deal with or so i think!! Did you ever look at the saline package to see if it was truly just saline or if it had anything other meds in it?? If it does that certainly could be the reason for the horrible sleep pattern right now, if it’s plain saline, I have no good reason other than just as we do babies have difficult sleeping patterns. I wish I had something magical to say to you or a fix for you. Allie is a beautiful little girl,I have been meaning to mention that!!! Hang in there it’s very hard I know but use Mr. W as much as you can today to give yourself a break since you will be back it at alone tomorrow!!! I do remember dreading Monday AM when our son was in his crying not sleeping stage and then it made me feel like a horrible mother for not wanting to be alone with my child, oh the guilt we put oursevles through!!! I often put him his crib after I was sure he was fed, dry all of his needs met, closed his door and went outside for a 10 min break. Had I not done so, well let’s not go there, it’s a hard stage/time to deal with. I second guessed myself day and night!! We were young parents I was all of 25, we lived 800 miles from the cloest family member, hubby worked 8-5 then went to school in the evenings. So it was me,myself and a difficult baby!!! But the good news it we made it, he just turned 28 and is serving our country so all turned out well,at the time did I think it would???? Oh hell no way!!!! So there is hope, hang in there my friend easy for me to say I realize.
Marie
Idlehouse – wow…thank u thank u for that link! She’s at 12wks right now & is definitely changing & developing at a noticeable speed. The link makes me think that it’s just her normal development & not me doing something wrong, like napping her too much. The same neighbor who recommended the sleep book also had recommended “the wonder weeks,” but said because the book’s studies stopped after age 40 wks, she panicked not knowing where to look for developmental information & signs when her kid passed age 1.
Marie – thank u for the encouragement & the experience stories, reminds me there’s life after infancy. Yes, I dread alone times, but simultaneously look foreward to them because at least mr w won’t be affected anymore when he’s at work, so the guilt is less. & yes, it’s just saline in the neb. More detail in my response to the previous post.