Thu 2 Feb 2006
Check out this profundity. It came to me in the shower just now, where most of my profound thoughts find me (then and while I’m doing my makeup). However, because it’s kinda late and I’d been drinking, maybe it’s not as profound as I think it is at this time. I’ll probably read this in the morning and laugh at myself.
Women work hard on finding compromises and fixing impasses in their relationships with men. We don’t like to shrug off a problem, we try to find a way to resolve it and learn from it so that it doesn’t haunt the couple later. Women are inspired to do this because we feel it makes the relationship better for ourselves. Well, that may be true and great in a marriage. However, for a dating or boyfriend/girlfriend situation where there is no established future, chances are that the girl’s just fixing the guy up for the next bitch to come along. Why do this to ourselves? If the guy’s dumb enough to lose us in the first place, let his next victim suffer what we suffered. What do we care if his place is messy if we’re not going to end up with him? Let his next bitch deal with the cockroaches. His problems are only our problems if we married these problems. Then, improving the getting-along is time invested in the future of the relationship. But if you’re only dating and his messiness bothers you to the point where you can’t stand to be with him anymore, dump him! His problems will leave with him!
Why does the next woman have to be the next bitch? I think trying to find compromise in a relationship is part of the most important part of a relationship, communication. And I don’t believe that to be a trait inherent with females. I can see that you are bitter right now, but dont let the poisons which are writhing in you turn you into a bitter relationship, female/male hurting ass. You are better than that.
I re-read the post and it still makes sense to me. It’s not like me to not work my fingers bloody trying to undo some knot in a relationship I’m in, but maybe it’s something I should adopt. Maybe I should stop investing so much of myself in something that isn’t definitively mine. That way there’s less attachment and less hurt.
“chances are that the girl’s just fixing the guy up for the next bitch to come along”
“His problems will leave with him!”
hilarious…and profound!!
hey, that’s 2 vs. 1 right now. and female vs. male. hmm…