Thu 8 Mar 2007
The SUV in front of me this morning had a license plate frame that said, in a stylistic font reminscent of Old World Celtic wisdom:
ABOVE ALL ELSE
PROTECT YOUR HEART
It reminded me of a poem I’d written in high school, in which the speaker is a mother advising her daughter about life, and it ends with something like “But no matter what, remember to keep a portion of your heart sovereign, or you’ll have nothing left to rebuild yourself with, when he hurts you.” Of course I justified the pessimistic angle by entitling it “From a Cancer Mother to her Daughter”, cuz everyone knows that Cancers have a shell to protect their soft, loving but vulnerable insides. (I’m a Cancer, as is my mother.)
The SUV in front of me did not have the cartoony white stickfigures representing each member of the driver’s family that adorns so many SUVs around here. And it was a BMW. The driver was alone. I don’t know that she’s single, but if she were, could the driver’s motto be the reason that she’s by herself? If she didn’t get married and have 3 kids, she could afford a BMW SUV, right? And what’s that say about me that I’m 30, single, no kids, in a Lexus? Are the two paths in life either fulfillment with family life OR fulfillment with materialism? Are the two typically mutually exclusive? Then where do I fit in? I’m not a particularly materialistic person, but the reason I have the Lexus is because in one emotional weekend, I decided to blow my wedding fund. So for me, I suppose on some level the Lexus is a (poor) compensation for what I really want.
and me!
weird, i was just thinking about buying a new car.
I need some of your Cancer style to rub off on me. I am an Aquarius and I think we lack that in a major way!
And I think you can have both luxury and family…just need to plan it right or hit the lotto.
Just remember the law of attraction….what you think will be attracted into your life.
I think you can definately have both Luxury and family. you just have to get in the right circumstances and you’ll have it.
I think my brother is in a great spot for that, and I think he is because he planned it smartly.
He got married late 30s, waited a few more years to have kids. So by then he already owned his house, stable job, etc. He has a luxury car, great house, and great kids.
If he didn’t wait until he was prepared I doubt he’d have all those things. So waiting is usually the smart thing to do anyway.
I think being financially stable before getting married / having kids is a great contributer to keeping it together. That’s one less thing you have to worry about.
Diana – yes, you’re a Cancer, too! That’s why we exchange horoscopes.
Vanessa – you want to be once-bitten-twice-shy? It’s kinda painful. But at least you don’t make the same mistake very often. And regarding your advice… *thinking thin* *thinking thin*
James – women don’t have the luxury of waiting till the 40s. If our eggs don’t turn to jerky, then the possibility of Down’s Syndrome skyrockets. I think it’s one thing to be financially stable first (like your brother), and another to be spending your future kids’ college fund on yourself purchasing non-tax-deductible luxuries.
Isn’t that why women are attracted to older guys? They have more stability and money.
I think women are more attracted to older men because, in general, they are more mature and don’t play retarded games and know what they want in life.