Wed 18 Feb 2009
Mr. W is now spending his 2nd night in the hospital after what turned out to be a heart attack yesterday at work. This evening he underwent an angioplasty which the operating cardiologist explained to me afterwards opened up the main heart artery which was blocked 95% through a long segment and a 3-4 inch stint was placed in that artery to keep it open. Mr. W was in a lot of pain coming out of the procedure so after a dose of morphine, he started dozing off. So I left.
I wasn’t even sure how to blog about this, and this post would’ve taken on a very different tone, except 3 minutes ago when I turned on the computer, an email notification came though. I didn’t read the email, but the notification displays the first 10 or so words, and it’s from his ex-wife in one of her infamous rude demeaning emails demanding money. I just absolutely lost it. I went upstairs immediately and texted Daughter, “Can you please have your mom lay off the emails? Your father is still in the hospital after his heart attack. Thanks.” I’ve been keeping both kids updated with their father’s situation, making it as non-dramatic and factual as possible. So I’m sure the ex-wife knows about the situation, and she thinks it’s appropriate to write this email. Now all the past insistence I had to stay out of their business just went out the window. She can interpret it however she wants. If she wants to be nice she can read it as an FYI that he’s not getting the emails because he’s still in the hospital. But if she has a conscience she’ll read it as it’s intended: learn about propriety, bitch. There’s a time and a place. Your money is of no importance.
Whoa, Sorry to hear that Cindy! I hope he pulls through this quickly!
and wooowww about the ex-wife. Seriously??? Emails demanding money at this time??? That’s just wrong.
He’s still in the hospital. They pulled out the two valves in his thigh last night (left there from the angioplasty) and he’s bedridden by doctor order so he doesn’t accidentally cause himself to bleed to death.
I was SHAKING last night, I was so angry. I exchanged some texts with his son and it was confirmed she was home and knew about Mr. W’s condition. She’s a freaking NURSE, I honestly thought she’d be a big person about this but she stooped lower than I ever would’ve imagined. What’s she trying to do, push him over the edge? Apparently she doesn’t realize that if he dies, she doesn’t get ANY money from him, and she doesn’t get that retirement she’s got her eyes on, either.
life becomes startingly clear and simple when things like this wake u up, doesn’t it? i miss u friend and am thinking of u both. *BIG hug!*
thanks, anny!!
WOW! That’s scary, but on the bright side he is alive and in good hands!!! Didn’t he recently go get a body scan and they saw the plaque build up saying he could possibly have a heart attack? Well, if you need anything, please let me know. I am sure he is going to be off of work a little bit, and hey you have FMLA to cover you, so you can be with him. I work just around the corner, so if you need me to check up on him during my lunch time I CAN!!! 🙂 I can bring him lunch or movie. Just say the word!!!
Oh.. and that ex is a bitch and a half! Karma is gonna get her bad!
I’m soooo sorry Cindy to hear!!!… how are YOU doing!???
screw the ex…set up a new email for Mr W – give to the ex and have Mr W read them when he is well and ready…
I’m very sorry to hear about what happened. We’ll be praying for his speedy recovery.
As far as his ex wife, unfortunately you can’t do much about her ridiculous behavior. She’s not going to quit because she’s got a lot of anger and bitterness in her heart. The only thing you can do is confront her or pray for her or both.
Vanessa – Thanks for your offer! His parents came down spontaneously, so we’ve got 4 extra hands (and feet)! Yup, the body scan shows plaque, but it doesn’t show the pre-plaque squishy stuff. Apparently that is all over the place. The cardiologist said Mr. W has a bunch of other 40-50% blockages all over his body that they just left alone.
People keep telling me karma’s gonna get her. I’m curious how that’s gonna play out.
k – I’m all right, thanks. I’d been on “crisis mode” mentally since it happened (no emotions, all tactical), but just snapped last nite. And ever since then, I’ve had a hideous headache/eye ache and fever.
Erin – Thanks, Erin. He’s collecting a lot of prayers from friends, coworkers, and family. 🙂
I’m definitely not going to confront the ex-wife. This still isn’t my battle and I’m not going to make it any bigger for Mr. W to have to deal with.
OMG… are you ok? Is [Mr. W] ok???? Is there anything I can do??? anything???? You’re about as put together and strong as they come… you two will pull through this in no time. All of our prayers are with you and the family. Love ya babe… please please let me know if i can help in any way…. I’m not that far….
When does [Mr. W] get to leave the hospital?
This is just awesome…. I get to read about my Uncle having a heart attack thru a blog. My Dad is def hearing some words from me today about why he never called me to tell me what happened. Give Uncle [W] all our love please and let him know we are praying for him. Oh, and as for little Ms. ‘L’, what a heartless witch! UGHHH!
You didn’t tell me about the ex in our texting the past few days. That evil bitch.
Little advice whether you want it or not.. but I’m your sister, so I can do what I want. So… the next time evil bitch does something like that, hit the reply button and take care of it yourself. Try to avoid going through the kids, if you can. You have every right to reply to the email… which should have read something like ..
“my husband is still in the hospital.. you can discuss this at a more appropriate time”
although it would have been great to say “stfu you stupid ass money grubbing evil bitch.. ” you know, something like that.
Mr. W has been on my mind the last several days..
Oh, and when I said “angioplasty isn’t so bad” in one of my texts, I meant it’s better than open heart.. not that he wouldn’t be in pain after. Morphine is your friend.
I agree with Jordan. You have every right to tell her to back off. He is your husband. She seems to think she can treat your husband however she wants since you’re not going to tell her anything any way. It might even make her calm down.
Sandy – thanks, everyone’s fine now, and you know if I actually did need something that I’d claim you weren’t too far away, too. Even tho you’re pretty far. 🙂
Vanessa – He just got discharged this afternoon! He’s finally home. We got your care package at our front door, what a surprise! Thanks for thinking of him.
Jess – I don’t know that your dad knew much; your uncle didn’t want to tell family about it at all (to keep people from worrying) until the doctor announced that he was getting an angioplasty procedure done, so he finally called his parents (and only them) at like 3:30p Wednesday to let them in the loop. He didn’t call your dad or any of your other uncles. Thanks for reading my blog, tho! 🙂 This is the best information source anyway. haha.
Jordan – I agree that the angio was not a worst-case scenario. His heart attack was mild enough that the paramedics’ EKG didn’t pick up anything, and there’s no permanent heart damage. So this is a sufficiently early warning. We just picked up 8 prescription meds for the cocktail he’s gonna have to take for the rest of his life now! =P
Erin/Jordan – The reason I don’t mess with the ex is because we so far have been keeping an unspoken truce between the two of us personally; I don’t attack her, she doesn’t attack me. His other exes have waged war with her and it’s only made things more vengeful, dramatic, and he stressed MORE because of the constant warfare. I also don’t want the ex bad-mouthing me to his kids because they’d feel disloyal to her when they come over or talk to me. I don’t expect her kids to choose me over their mother, and I don’t want them in a position where SHE is going to make them choose, because she will.
I agree hateful messages shouldn’t be exchanged through the kids (altho the ex does that ALL THE TIME) but I just lost control last nite. It was a weak moment. I don’t usually do stuff like that. Besides, I know Daughter and have talked to her since and it never came up so I know she read the text and just let it go, didn’t mention it to her mom. Unless she mentioned it in her way and didn’t attribute it to me.
While all of that seems “fair” .. I still stand strong on the occasional ‘putting her in her place’ .. I don’t think you’re waging war if once in awhile you step up and tell her like it is (even if it is brief). I think confrontation was on-going with his other exes, which turned things into a war. Plus they probably didn’t handle it like you would have. His kids are older.. and I KNOW daughter already has a clue as to the crap her mom pulls.
You are the bigger person, I know that. But a big part of me wants you to put.her.in.her.place
I don’t think you realize how many angry blows this woman is capable of. You touch her once, and you’ll be dealing with her retaliation for the next decade.
Besides, again, this is “their” battle. I’m letting him do his own thing and handle it in his way. It doesn’t involve me until I step in it or until she ropes me into her lashings (which she hasn’t done). I think I’d have a different stance if they didn’t share kids, tho.