Fri 15 Apr 2011
I (and Pilates) didn’t kill the kid! This is a video from my Wednesday morning appointment. The doctor is taking a measurement of the baby (and my uterine cavity, and each ovary, but that’s not on the video. You’re welcome.). Mr. W shot the video on his phone, and if you can look past the beginning when his hands are shaking, you can make out the baby’s rapid heartbeat in the middle of his chest. It looks like a flashing.
This marks my last appointment with the fertility clinic (which staff has been SO GREAT). I donated the 2 vials of Follistim I didn’t use so that it could save a future IVF patient $300. At 8 weeks, I’ve been told I may be transferred to my regular OB now. I made the appointments with my regular medical provider for 2 weeks away.
This week, I also had a visit with a personal trainer at the ultra nice gym, who specializes in prenatal exercise. He knew a lot and explained medically, biologically the changes that my body would be going through soon, and what that meant as far as my posture and agility changes, how that kinesiology can be supported and eased with what exercise. I’m meeting with him for three training sessions soon. Apparently, a pregnant woman can exercise from the beginning all the way to the day she delivers, if she does the right things. I learned why the doctor wanted me to drop the weights so significantly. That hormone Relaxin, that softens all the cartilage/tendons/ligaments so your body can stretch and change for pregnancy and prepare labor? It affects all the joints’ facia, too, which means if I’m careless doing heavy freeweights and not watching my range of motion, the lack of support with softened joints can cause my limbs to hyperextend, even popping out a joint (YEOWCH). So yes, nothing that’s jerky, twisty, fighting gravity too much. Machine weights are a good alternative. He also advised me to keep my exercise heart rate below 140-145. That was a little difficult, as I’m out of breath more easily now and my resting heart rate is 5 bpm faster than it was pre-pregnancy. But keeping the heart rate lower, he explained, is key to preventing overheating the baby during exercise. I guess I’m sticking to easy cardio, such as the elliptical trainer, from now on.
Mr. W has been receiving a newsletter from whattoexpect.com every few days (*nudging Flip Flop Girl*) with advice that tracks exactly where I am in this pregnancy. He’s been calling me to his emails to read them, altho I’d hoped he’d read them himself and fill me in on the pertinent stuff. He does look at the occasional newsletter if the headline interests him, but mostly, they’re saved for me to delve into. A newsletter I read just a moment ago talked about fatigue I’m likely going through now, how normal that is given all the extra stuff the body is doing, and how to combat this fatigue. I haven’t been fatigued; in fact, I still had insomnia the past few nights. I had no issue walking a brisk 3 miles at lunchtime today, and despite the slightly more labored breathing and raised heartbeats I’d already described, working out this week hasn’t knocked me out. In fact, my morning sickness is now barely noticeable. I read on to see their fatigue cures. Don’t reach for the caffeinated frappuccinos, candy bars, or energy drinks, the article warns. They cause a crash and are very unhealthy for both mom and baby. Instead, bring up nutrition by eating these proteins (e.g. cheese, poultry, tofu and soy products, legumes, quinoa, nuts/seeds), these complex carbs (e.g. fresh fruits, dried fruits, fresh veggies, whole-grain breads/crackers/cereals, baked potatoes), and these iron-rich foods (e.g. spinach, dried fruit, soy products). These are things I’m eating now, anyway! I bring a bag of wholesome carbs and nuts/trail mix, 3 varieties of fruit, and a stick of string cheese or yogurt to work with me and graze throughout the day. I had a craving for a baked potato last weekend, and Mr. W indulged me by taking me to Claim Jumper and ordering a rack of baby back ribs (for him; I still have my meat aversion) and selecting the baked potato as his side (given to me, of course). A similar article from the same newsletter teaches moms-to-be to combat cravings by substituting unhealthy cravings (such as for candy bars, things that give you little nutrition but a big crash afterwards) with similar healthier alternatives, which I already do, too.
I might just be one of those lucky people for whom pregnancy is manageable in the first trimester, when a lot of people suffer from the crazy hormonal fluxes. I am certainly appreciative of not having to experience morning sickness for another 6-8 weeks until I reach the second trimester. But couldn’t it be possible that my body is having an easier time because it doesn’t have to try every trick in the book to get me to eat the nutrition it and the growing baby needs? I keep comparing the pregnancy experiences of a particular acquaintance — miserable, cranky, and huge as early as 3-4 months — with those of my friends who are nutrition- and exercise-savvy. The latter friends had all enjoyed their pregnancies and despite having had down-days, too, had overall uneventful and unproblematic pregancies and deliveries. I hope to join their ranks. But if I don’t, you guys will know.
What a delightful bean in your lovely uterus! I’m sure there are several things that you are doing that contribute to your easy pregnancy. Some of it’s just plain old luck tho. It used to amaze me that some idiot addicted to crack with no prenatal care would have a perfectly normal pregnancy and delivery (of course baby was born addicted to crack) and then some of the mothers that did EVERYTHING by the book would struggle the entire pregnancy. Or even stranger, one pregnancy would be completely opposite of their next pregnancy.
Hi little cindy!! she’s waving… i saw it
Bat – haha, you sound like all my medical professionals. 🙂 Yes, it totally bothers me that someone would just haphazardly have a kid and not even appreciate or care for it, whereas I have to jump through incredible hoops to have a chance that those people take for granted. Or worse, use to selfishly trap a person, or for government money. I did have a few rather sickly moments, tho. Last Wednesday, we went out for lunch to celebrate Gym Trainee’s bday. She chose a Mexican restaurant, and I had a wet chicken burrito (I don’t usually have Mexican anymore). Then that night, I met up with Ann over Papa John’s pizza. I had ONE slice. I was miserable the entire night with acid reflux and a general sick feeling. I actually dry-heaved at one point over the toilet, but didn’t puke.
jordan – HAHA! I’d be afraid to tell you the gender of the baby once we get a read at month 5.
Congratulations to you and Mr. W!!
I guess I’m one of the sensitive ones; had pretty bad morning sickness even before I confirmed my pregnancy with my primary care. It was so bad that I couldn’t step out of the house and had to drag myself to work each day throughout the whole 1st trimester. Thank goodness it went away at the beginning of my 2nd trimester. I had cravings on certain food for some week but the next I totally hated it. I couldn’t keep any food down even though I was hungry. I was tired all the time too and fell asleep easily at 8pm. Yet there were some nights that I couldn’t go back to sleep after waking up in midnight. 2nd trimester was a bliss for me.
I do agree that for those who exercise regularly and are careful about their diets tend to have a smooth pregnancy and delivery. I’m a lazy person who don’t get up to work out much but I do watch my diet. So I’m grateful that my pregnancy was pretty uneventful except a false alarm on my gestation diabetes test (I was stupid to gulp a glass of OJ before having my blood drawn). I’m happy that I just put on <30 lbs, which mainly went to the baby. But since I had a 8.25lb baby (he's considered rather big size for my size), my labor was longer than anticipated and ended up I was too exhausted and was having a high fever. In the end, my OB suggested a C-section and my baby and I were on antibiotics for a few days. If only I had better stamina, I might be able to endure the pain and stuff during labor. I also find that age plays a role too. I could have recovered faster if I were in my 20s. Anyways now I think taking care of a baby is more exhausting; I feel like I'm running a marathon. I have never appreciated my mother more than after I became one myself. 😛
WHOA! See what happens when you stop blogging? You whole life flips a 180 and I didn’t even know! Congrats to you!
Yeah, my mom is waiting for the day when I appreciate her mothering. Haha.
that’s a good looking kid you’ve got there! 😉
your doc (or u/s tech) sounds really young!
i wonder how your fertility clinic will decide who gets your donated drugs. it’s not like there are many low-income folks going through IVF, right? 😛
at least mr. w is actually looking at the emails and not flagging them as spam 🙂
i agree that you’ll probably have a relatively easy pregnancy because you already do everything “right”. so, not a big life adjustment for you to eat a balanced diet and get some exercise.
and i agree with jade about appreciating our parents. i’ve always appreciated mine, but becoming a parent takes it to a whole ‘nother level.
just out of curiousity, did the doc say how big the baby is measuring? and how does that compare to his gestational age?
*waving* Hi little baby. You heart beats so brightly!!!
So happy the sicko feelings are pretty well gone. Listening to your body takes a little work, but is so rewarding. There are prenatal personal trainers? I should have known! So much available now. And the clothes are ALOT cuter now too!
Just dropping by to say hello to you and Riley. Glad the pregnancy hasn’t given you any problems. I’m glad you are keeping a diary of what all you’re doing, hopefully someday I’ll come back and search these posts for my own healthy pregnancy experience!! xoxo
Flip Flop – that’s the female doctor, one of the 3 fertility docs at that branch, the one who discovered my disappearing polyps.
How the drugs may find a home is probably like what they did for me. They did some math, multiplying the # of doses I’d have to take by the iu of each dose, and thought I’d be a couple of doses short, so they ran off to the fridge and gave me a free vial. So I basically returned their vial plus added one more of my own. (My dosage had dropped thru my course of meds so I ended up way ahead.) It may save a future patient from having to order refills.
Re the newsletters, he’s not looking at many of them. =P He now has it set up so that it automatically goes in a different email folder.
Re baby measurement, at the end of the video clip you hear the dr measuring the baby, putting an x on the base, another x on the head (“Baby goes from here to here…”) and then saying some number like seventeen point something. I don’t know what that means relative to gestational age, tho.
Maggie – Aww, you can see the heart beat? You must have a great monitor. 🙂 I’m hoping I can avoid maternity clothes altogether and just buy those empire tops and dresses that are still in style. I’ve said for the past few years that current fashion trends look like maternity wear. Now I’ll try to make it work for me.
Flat Coke – hello back! Yup, the reason I’m detailing my experience is the hope that someone who needs to see first-hand accounts would find this helpful. I didn’t see much IVF personal accounts out there except for people on YouTube crying about how it didn’t work.
Cindy! you might want to take weekly photos if you have not done so already. I like the silhouette ones the most, early in the morning, starting around the 3rd month. I still look at my own photos sometimes and smile.
Do wear body hugging clothes and dresses and skip buying pregnancy stuffs. You’ll look very hot in that sort of thing 🙂 First time pregnancy bellies are so beautiful, especially when you are now young, your skin is still tight, muscles are still bouncy… I have always been comfortable with my own body, but I felt the best about it when I was pregnant. I think you will have the sort of pregnancy I had too.
I could NOT wait to get into preggo clothes. The reason? I just looked fat in regular clothes, and I would much rather look preggo. So I went out and got some to wear to work, as well as the obnoxious Tshirt that said Baby on Board (That was before those signs were popular). Then people quit looking at me aghast and instead sighed “Oooohhh, You’re going to have a baby!”. It almost made my large ass seem tolerable. :-p
idlehouse – Mr. W wants to do those silhouette photos. He’s talked about them waaaaaaay before we seriously considered getting pregnant. But I’ve never thought of doing them weekly. The changes are THAT dramatic week-to-week? He also totally agrees with you re showing off the baby bump. I’m not sure i want to do that. I’m one of those “I don’t wanna draw attention, don’t look at me” people. Especially when I feel i want to protect my unborn.
I’m not sure I would look as good as you did pregnant; I have a few extra pounds on me that you don’t have. 🙂
Maggie – It’s never occurred to me that regular clothes would make me look fat instead of preggo. Interesting. HAHA, you got the 80s shirt! I hope you have photos! And I can’t picture you having a large ass. Weren’t you always a dancer?
I think the derriere is the first area to expand with joints loosening up etc. And I carried mine in the back, so I didn’t pop until very late. So I looked rather large from the rear. I have a picture of me preggo up here.
I’ve gotta remember to go up and ask to see that pic!