Mon 11 Jul 2011
Mr. W expressed a concern last week that I was “gaining too much weight too fast,” which put me in a paranoid tizzy. He said he based this opinion on the fact that pregnancy weight gain guidelines tell new mothers to expect a one pound per week weight gain toward the latter part of pregnancy. My usual weigh-in is morning just after I use the restroom, and based on that, I’d put on 8.3 lbs at almost 21 weeks along. Given the 20-lb limit the OB placed on me for total pregnancy weight gain, and the fact that I have 19 or so more weeks of pregnancy to go, at this rate it looked I would blow past 20 pounds. So I was totally bummed.
At the OB appointment last Friday, I voiced this weight gain concern to my doctor. He didn’t seem particularly troubled, saying that a jump in weight gain at this point IS expected. Then he looked at the numbers on his record for me. The bizarre thing is that altho Allison was conceived on Feb 28 with my weight in the mid 120s (and all medical records around that time verified this weight), on May 3 when I had my first visit with this OB, I weighed in at 120. So of course he recorded that as my starting weight, which isn’t accurate. The appointment on Friday was in the afternoon after lunch, and I had come from work and was in full work clothes, so I weighed more than I normally did on my morning appointments, and it made it look like I weigh a few pounds heavier than I really was. So the doctor was a TAD more concerned that at 21 weeks, I appeared to have a 14-lb weight gain. =P He basically told me not to diet or lose weight, but to get some exercise in daily, and to not eat out much, to avoid juices and sugars, and to cut down on carbs and increase protein. He increased my total weight gain goal from 20 lbs to 25 lbs, cutting me some slack, and told me to make efforts to not gain more than 1/2 lb per week from this point on. So I was totally bummed, feeling like a failure when I left there.
Yesterday at my parents’ house, my mom, totally uncharacteristically, made mention of her opinion that I appear to not have put any extra weight on my person, that only my stomach got big where the baby is. Mr. W pointed out that the doctor said I gained 14 lbs. Mom reiterated that none of the weight gain was on me, she said she could tell. She’s usually the first to point out when I gained a couple of pounds, so I hope she’s not just being nice for nothing now. Meanwhile, I’ll work on diet and be more stringent with cutting carbs and stuff, and try to get more exercise in. I was able to take a brisk hilly 3 mile walk over the weekend without panting myself silly, so this must mean my extra blood supply has finally kicked in. I was getting tired of the breathlessness I’d get from even short spurts of minimal physical activity, like climbing a flight of stairs.
P.S. In good news from the OB visit, my 2nd trimester screen test results are in, so compiled with the data from the first screen, my odds of having a Down Syndrome baby went from 1 in 400 to 1 in 10,000. Everything else came out within normal or good ranges, too.
You can’t get too caught up in this…you are gonna put on weight, and there is no way to avoid it. Just so long as you eat healthy, stay as active as you can and none of your vitals get out of whack, then the number of pounds you gain is not all that important.
Some women barely gain weight and some put on 50+ pounds. Where did the 20 come from? That strikes me as ridiculously low…
the OB did say that there’s nothing I can do to prevent weight gain cuz the metabolic process during pregnancy will force me to gain weight. I know that, of course.
He got the 20 from a medical chart saying that with someone at my bmi, that’s a healthy pregnancy weight gain. I think the range was 20-25. Now he upped it to 25-30.
I think most women worry about weight gain. One of my class mates who in TINY told me she gained about 60+ for each of her 5 kids. Her first pregnancy she was young and admits to eating everything insight, but the rest just followed. I think you will be just fine. 🙂 And so happy that your mom said she thinks its all belly! That made me happy cuz I know at times she can say things about your weight that are a distorted imagine of the truth.
In my never-been-pregnant-clueless-about-all-this-opinion:
The weight gain seems to be an inconvenience? At this point isn’t Allison’s health the most important thing to focus on, even if that adds 5 lbs to your overall pregnancy weight?
The weight gain isn’t coming from your weakness to pig out on unhealthy food (which will be MY weakness!! 🙂 It seems it’s coming from your baby needing to grow and be nourished.
As for Mr W….did the mother of his other children have perfect weight? Meaning…why is HE an expert? 🙁
I am sorry you were bummed, but I hope you can find the positives in the weight gain. Your baby is growing!! It is a beautiful thing. You’re facilitating that to happen, what an honor!!
xoxo
Vanessa – my doc said “tiny” people can and often do gain more weight during pregnancy cuz their little bodies need to go from “underweight” to a normal weight, and THEN gain the appropriate pregnancy weight. Haha, thanks for remembering about my old fights with my mom. 🙂 She always thinks (or claims to) that she’s being honest and hence is saying stuff for my own good.
Flat Coke – Mr. W, the OB, and my concern about weight gain isn’t about me getting fat, it’s about pushing the boundaries of a healthy pregnancy. Studies show that excessive weight gain on pregnant mom puts the baby at all kinds of risk, not just while I’m carrying her, but also in her life. It increases her likelihood of childhood diabetes, obesity, heart problems, etc. If it were just about my vanity weight, I’d be totally annoyed at Mr. W! So in that sense, I agree with you, it IS all about Allison’s health.
And re Mr. W’s kids’ mom…uh, I very recently saw an old family photograph with stepson as an infant in it, and the mom was standing by with a CIGARETTE in her hand. She should’ve gone outside if she was gonna smoke, not smoke in the house next to an infant. I don’t know if she had “perfect weight” while pregnant, tho, cuz I’m not sure they even knew what they were supposed to do for optimal fetal health back then. I feel like her priorities were elsewhere, tho, not on going to the doctor regularly, listening to med advice, and reading baby books. Mr. W seems very interested in my baby stuff, which makes me think that this is new to him, and he plans on coming to the pregnancy/delivery/parenting classes with me. (I didn’t even have to threaten him!)
Ohhhhhh….I am sorry!! I had not been taking the comments in the direction of a healthy pregnancy as much as weight gain. I apologize. I have such respect for moms that can follow such a rigid lifestyle and lookout for their baby…maybe it’s a regional thing because I see mom’s “typically” here eat as much fried food and cake as they can possible stuff in and use the excuse “the baby is hungry” to satisfy their guilt. Of course, that’s possibly why juvenile diabetes and childhood obesity is on the rise. I’m quite sure TN would rank higher in those scores, from my own observation.
Oh, it’s okay! I’m touched you have my back if someone dared call me fat! 🙂
I think diet is pretty regional, cuz when we were doing our road trip driving thru the south, we had a HARD time finding a place to stop and eat that had healthy stuff. It was pretty much fast food, fried food, like you said. Driving thru a city around here, you’d find in the same area fast food, sit-down food, ethnic food, vegetarian stuff, a whole variety.
please keep in the mind that the statistics about a “healthy” pregnancy are just that — statistics. women who gain an unhealthy amount of weight are often gorging themselves on unhealthy food, not exercising, etc. so of course, these “bad” things are feeding the fetus, and these unhealthy habits continue after the baby is born. i would bet every penny that i have that if you continue to eat and exercise in the healthy manner that you have been, and you raise your child with the same healthy habits, she will be healthy — even if you gain 5 or 10 or 20 pounds more than your target weight.
Can i just tell you that I was 92 lbs my first pregnancy…ended up 135 lbs. I went down to 110 within 3 months after delivery. Second pregnancy I was around 120 when I got pregnant delivered around 135 and was 120 again within a few months. Third pregnancy I was 110 …delivered around 120 (I was CRAZY active) even played coed volleyball until 6 or so months …and came home from the hospital weighing like 108…LESS than what I started. Fourth pregnancy i was around 115 ended up seriously like 140 – 142 had a csection this time so no exercising for over six weeks and a year later was 110. DUDE.. stop stressing. ENJOY this pregnancy!! I don’t care what ANYONE says, and yes I WILL take them on in either a verbal sparring or fisticuffs if I have to. You are extremely health conscious. You exercise very regularly. You are enjoying the first amazing WONDERFUL pregnancy of your life… E.N.J.O.Y it. I mean that…
flip flop – *spitting out a cherry pit* Thanks for your faith in me! I’ll try not to prove you wrong (especially if you have all your $ riding on it). 🙂
Jordan – thanks for the valiant defense, but as I was telling Flat Coke, the concern isn’t that I’m gonna be fat and ugly after I pop the kid out. the issue is really this:
http://cindy.ocliw.com/2010/08/30/pregnancy-no-longer-an-excuse-for-pigging-out-darn/
I can’t believe you remember your exact weights from each pregnancy! But even more, I can’t believe you gained only TEN POUNDS on another one. Wow. I guess unless your lifestyle changed drastically kid-to-kid, each pregnancy really IS different and sort of takes on a life of its own.
I have baby books silly…. the beginning details your pregnancy and then of course the day the baby was born and milestones… and yes, each pregnancy IS different. The reason I only gained 10 ish pounds with Alyssa is because I was extremely active.. and didn’t eat any junk at all (there’s a story behind that) .. the other women at the hospital couldn’t believe I just had a baby. I had her at 5:30pm and left the hospital around 11 am the next morning. Something my hospital here would never let you do..
well I disagree with that WebMD article… of course the way a mother eats could potentially affect her unborn child ESPECIALLY if she eats crap 24/7 like some people do, an occasionaly pig-out is FINE. If that were true, a couple of my kids would be unhealthy and they’re not. All 4 kids have been very healthy and continue to be healthy into late teens and early adulthood (where they are now) … and as children, they were RARELY sitting in a the pediatrician’s office. You’re a health nut.. you’re a healthy woman.. you’re doing fine! And Allison is going to be a healthy baby!
I wonder how long I would stay at the hospital post-labor. I’ve heard they kick you out after 1 day these days.
Hmm, I wonder if I should get a baby book. But it’s probably too late now, and I have this blog anyhow.
Rebecca said that everything with Allison would be fine, too. 🙂 So far all preliminary screenings verify that.
Oh, P.S., because we had talked about a concern with this…
In this last checkup, the OB found that the placenta is in the front (yay to no placenta previa!), which he says is a very normal location.
I have one for you actually… it’s part of the package. I will send it out.. you have the blog, but the book will be priceless. Guess who will want that book when she starts having children? Yes… it gets passed down 🙂
Oh and 1-2 days at my hospital for a vaginal delivery. 2-3 days for a c section.. I’d say it’s a 50/50 with Mom’s wanting to stay that 2nd day and the other half wants to go home. Because the baby has mandatory state infant screening (a heal stick) that needs to be done after 24 hours, they can’t leave until that’s done. And there are those idiots who use drugs during their pregnancy that buys their baby call kinds of extra time at the hospital AND a call to DCF. Some are taken awan and plased in foster care.. others get to go home with their poor excuse for a Mother.
Ooh cool! I get to fill out a baby book! =D Maybe I can read it to her at night as a bedtime story. AND it’ll double as a cautionary tale.
No one’s gonna take Allison from me when I’m ready to go home from the hospital! Mine! I have the receipts to prove I bought her fair and square!
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