I had a friend come up to me some weeks ago and ask for my take on some stuff that another friend of mine had said to him. The way he thought he understood my other friend’s comments made him feel uncomfortable, and I agreed that it sounded kind of not good. But I told him that I know this girl, she’s a good friend, and it’s not that she’s singling him out or meaning to sound derogatory, it’s just the way some of her language comes across, and to not take it personally. I said she’s kind of said the same type of stuff to a lot of us and really, it’s totally not personal and it’s just the way her language sometimes comes across, she’s not harboring anything against him internally. So comforted, my friend is going forward with some other plans he had which remotely would concern the other girl, also. Well, I just found out that my girl friend had talked to another friend of mine and how my male friend read her comments were EXACTLY how she meant them. Ick! And he’s going to walk right into something that would make the situation worse inadvertently. So what do I do, come out and forewarn him? I mean, I would let the chips fall where they may ordinarily, since this isn’t about me, EXCEPT that I’d already gave out some apparently wrong information which had misguided him!
I’m already pretty sure what I’m gonna do, but I thought I’d run it by impartial minds, too.
